6 Jan
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All Together

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“Nobody has it all together. Including the family sitting in front of you.”

Those words appeared at the end of a short video we watched at the beginning of our church service yesterday. The video showed a family arriving at church all spiffed up and smiling, but in reality their morning had started late and had more than a few hiccups before walking into church. It’s funny because it’s true. If we’re meant to be somewhere at a certain time in the morning, that’s a guarantee someone will have a broken shoelace, misplace a library book or hasn’t brushed their hair.

Our morning before arriving at church was not without a few glitches and a snappy mama. We were up early, had exercised and everyone was happy. I was audacious enough to think we were actually going to be early for church. My bold thinking doomed us. Someone squirted toothpaste on his shirt, the cupboard and the floor. Someone else didn’t fix the extreme bed-head he was suffering from after he was repeatedly asked to. The bathroom was occupied, and I needed to dry my hair. Someone elbowed his sister waiting at the door. I snapped. Ugh.

We parked in the church parking lot, and without saying a word, opened the doors and became the family who had it all together. Ha!

It seems so easy to show the world what we want it to see. I’ve been told I appear to have it all together. I always want to look over my shoulder at that comment. Surely you’re talking to someone else? I’m a mud puddle of a mess internally and have at least 100 different things running through my head at any given moment. Plus, I probably just snipped at my children.

As we walked out of the sanctuary, I had several brief conversations with people comparing how much the reality of our days matched what we watched on the screen that morning. It takes some pressure off to see everyone else is as flawed as we are. None of us have it all together. We have microseconds to react to most of our day. Not every reaction is perfect or catalyst welcome. I’m always relieved to discover someone else shares my actuality.

That mom who always seems to be perfectly coiffed, she doesn’t have it all together. That family with the children who are just sitting in their chairs at the restaurant, they don’t have it all together. We’re all doing the best we can with what we have. I’ll be happy to swap actual life stories with you. I’m the one with wet hair sitting next to the tween with extreme bedhead and the first-grader covered in toothpaste.

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  • Such a great post. It is so easy to act all put together in public, even minutes after there was a big blow up. So neat that the video caused conversations after church and everyone realized they were all in the same situations. Being more patient and easy going when things don’t go as planned is something I need to work on.