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29 Sep
2014
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Being More Brave Than Mom

Full view of Rushmore Tramway Adventures Aerial Park

I watched our oldest son carefully listen to the directions as he nervously played with the harness he was wearing. He had chosen an aerial obstacle course to celebrate turning 12 years old, and this past weekend we ran from our over-scheduled lives to Keystone, South Dakota to let him give it a try. He was minutes away from climbing above the earth and into the trees above our heads.

Stepping across an aerial bridge at Rushmore Tramway Adventures

I could tell he was a little nervous. His only question was how the harness and clips worked and how they would keep him safe. I listened to the directions and was trying to not become agitated. There was A LOT to remember. Place this there, then this there. Make sure your hand is here, not here.

Silhouetted in the trees of an aerial obstacle course

Five minutes later we were trudging up the hill to the start of the course. B was quiet, the way he gets when overcome by nerves, but he didn’t hesitate. He picked his course and climbed right up. Once he convinced a family to let him go in front of them, he cruised right along. He never wavered. Not once did I feel like he wanted down.

Walking on a plank at an aerial obstacle course

He’s so very different than his mama. New things may make him nervous, but the unknown has never stopped him from doing anything. He jumps right into the abyss of newness. I pace at the shore, not wanting to commit to anything new. The uncertainties hold me back. My cautious nature has eased in my 12 years of parenting. Watching our oldest has taught me how to be more brave, how to not stand on the shore and be afraid of what may never happen.

Close-up on a zipline

I watched B climb ever higher in the trees and my heart soared. I love that he decides he wants to try something, and he just does it. Go ahead and tell him he can’t. He’ll prove he can. He’s done it time and time again.  Even when he ran into a snafu during one section on one of the courses, he never cried for help or cowered. He problem-solved his way out, with a little help from an employee. I pray he holds on to that tenacity and bravery. It will continue to serve him well.

 


 
We’ll Go With ‘Passionate’
By     |    Sep 24, 2014
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We’ll Go With ‘Passionate’

B: “Mom I think people would say you’re passionate.” It was 7:15 a.m., and we were heading out of the driveway to get my tween to school. I’ve learned he almost always picks the most random times to bring up topics that need a little work to get through. Deep breath. Me: “Would you call me passionate?’ B: “For sure. When the coaches say to fire up, I think about how you are sometimes.” Seriously, kids miss nothing. Me: “I... [Read More]

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Reeling in Frazzled Emotions
By     |    Sep 21, 2014
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Reeling in Frazzled Emotions

My emotions have been raw this week. I feel unsteady and frazzled. I took two phone calls this week from people telling me of the unexpected deaths of two people I served side-by-side with on different boards. They shared my passion for children, literacy and our community. They were here one day and gone the next. I’ve struggled to find peace in what I don’t understand. I stood in my front yard and listened to children playing during recess at... [Read More]

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Parenthood Not Quite Like I Imagined
By     |    Sep 16, 2014
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Parenthood Not Quite Like I Imagined

It was 9:10 p.m. We had been at the football field for three hours. The sun had set long ago, and the air was chilly. I stood with two friends and my husband when we heard the referee say the words we had been longing for, “That’s time coach.” Followed by an addition we could have done without, “There are eight plays left. Do you want to play them?” Ugh. I wanted to answer for them, ” No. Just make... [Read More]

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Struggling to Answer Questions of “Why?”
By     |    Sep 11, 2014
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Struggling to Answer Questions of “Why?”

Every time one of the kids asks the question, “Why?”, I cringe and prepare myself for an epic battle of How Smart is Mom. I always lose at this game. Every “Why?” leads to another “Why?” There’s no end until I throw up my hands in defeat with my final answer, “I’m not sure.” Questions of morality are the most difficult. Opening the door in their minds to discuss the horrible things people do to each other does a number... [Read More]

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Story of the Missing Tooth Fairy
By     |    Sep 8, 2014
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Story of the Missing Tooth Fairy

It was bound to happen. The Tooth Fairy failed to appear last week. I’ve lost track of the number of times the Tooth Fairy has visited our home, but apparently, even she was worn out from the first week of school and the early mornings that came with it. Thankfully, if we were going to fail as parents, we chose the correct child. Our third son is a laid-back, happy-go-lucky, joyful person. C woke up to find our ceramic lost... [Read More]

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Embracing the Next Step in Parenting
By     |    Sep 2, 2014
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Embracing the Next Step in Parenting

My tumultuous emotions revolving around my oldest starting middle school has everything to do with me and not much to do with him. This is my selfish mama moment. He’s ready for this next level. He’s capable. This next chapter excites him. I thought I was terrified of the big, bad middle school filled with hormones where my son will be exposed to heaven knows what. I am, a little, on-edge for the doors, both good and questionable, that will open... [Read More]

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